Posted Saturday, February 2, 2008 by
Wanda Pabon
Self Actualization
The well adjusted personality is one that exhibits coherence in both the inner and outer perceptions of life and reality. When we are well balanced we can maintain consistency through all of our mental process while at the same time being able to adjust and integrate changes to adapt to new situations. Our mental health is in peril once we try to twist and unnaturally reform our inner innate balance, o
ur natural essence. Frustrations and denials can prove to be devastating to ones nature, creating dysfunctions that we carry through life.
Once in a while we come across people that seem strangely at peace. They exude confidence and assertiveness, while at the same time have compassion and empathy towards others. This are "Self-Actualized" individuals. Following are some characteristics. I am borrowing them from a Self Actualization site, I read while preparing to write this entry.
Realistic
Realistically oriented, SA persons have a more efficient perception of reality, they have comfortable relations with it. This is extended to all areas of life. SA persons are not threatened, not frightened by the unknown. they have a superior ability to reason, to see the truth. They are logical and efficient.
Acceptance
Accept themselves, others and the natural world the way they are. Sees human nature as is, have a lack of crippling guilt or shame, enjoy themselves without regret or apology, they have no unnecessary inhibitions.
Spontaneity, Simplicity, Naturalness
Spontaneous in their inner life, thoughts and impulses, they are unhampered by convention. Their ethics is autonomous, they are individuals, and are motivated to continual growth.
Problem Centering
Focus on problems outside themselves, other centered. They have a mission in life requiring much energy, their mission is their reason for existence. They are serene, characterized by a lack of worry, and are devoted to duty.
Detachment: The Need for Privacy
Autonomy: Independent of Culture and Environment
SA's rely on inner self for satisfaction. Stable in the face of hard knocks, they are self contained, independent from love and respect.
Interpersonal relations
Profound, intimate relationships with few. Capable of greater love than others consider possible. Benevolence, affection and friendliness shown to everyone.
Democratic values and attitudes
Able to learn from anyone, humble. Friendly with anyone regardless of class, education, political belief, race or color.
Philosophical
Acceptance of the nature of his self, human nature, social life, nature, physical reality, remains realistically human.
We can unlearn our dysfunctions and become again the natural happy person we were meant to be. Day by day get to know yourself , in a candid light. See what you like and celebrate it. See what you don't like an make a decision to change it. Work towards what truly makes you happy, towards your own set goals and do it at your own pace.
Be respectful of others and demand respect back. Live life actively not as an expectator. Do not fuel false illusions and destructive behaviors. When presented with confusing decisions, react and chose in an honest way. And, most importantly take responsibility for your actions, learn from your mistakes and celebrate your accomplishments. Look inwards without judgment, and you will find the answers. "Self Actualization is the intrinsic growth of what is already in the organism, or more accurately, of what the organism is." Abraham Maslow