ANGER
A big thing to remember with anger is that it is very important that it is dealt with, not acted out, ignored, or taken out on others.
It is important to be aware that you are getting angry, and pay attention to what causes the anger to flare up. Some recommend to keep a log of the times that you get angry, and include the physical signs, behavioral signs, and situations that you notice with each instance. This can help immensely in self awareness and anger management.
Anger is difficult because it can actually be a very painful feeling. Beyond the mental drain, there is a very physical side that comes out with anger. Increased heart rate, brain function, breathing, and more can be common with these flair ups.
This anger can come in many different forms, anger at the person who died for not taking care of themselves better, anger at yourself for not taking better care of them, or even anger that you didn't see the event coming.
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler wrote the book On Grief and Grieving. This is what they say about anger.
"It is important to remember that the anger surfaces once you are feeling safe enough to know you will probably survive whatever comes. At first, the fact that you lived through the loss is surprising to you. Then more feelings hit, and anger is usually at the front of the line as feelings of sadness, panic, hurt, and loneliness also appear, stronger than ever. Loved ones and friends are often taken aback by these feelings, because they surface just as you were beginning to function at a basic level again"
It is important to be aware that you are getting angry, and pay attention to what causes the anger to flare up. Some recommend to keep a log of the times that you get angry, and include the physical signs, behavioral signs, and situations that you notice with each instance. This can help immensely in self awareness and anger management.
Anger is difficult because it can actually be a very painful feeling. Beyond the mental drain, there is a very physical side that comes out with anger. Increased heart rate, brain function, breathing, and more can be common with these flair ups.
This anger can come in many different forms, anger at the person who died for not taking care of themselves better, anger at yourself for not taking better care of them, or even anger that you didn't see the event coming.
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler wrote the book On Grief and Grieving. This is what they say about anger.
"It is important to remember that the anger surfaces once you are feeling safe enough to know you will probably survive whatever comes. At first, the fact that you lived through the loss is surprising to you. Then more feelings hit, and anger is usually at the front of the line as feelings of sadness, panic, hurt, and loneliness also appear, stronger than ever. Loved ones and friends are often taken aback by these feelings, because they surface just as you were beginning to function at a basic level again"
